SOCIAL MEDIA IS THE FOOD COURT

Photo by Artyom Malyukov

In high school, you needed to be at the mall (this was the 90s, work with me here).

During practice with the first band I was in, I remember walking to the mall on a Friday night. Some of us started driving, so then we piled in the car.

You’d go to the mall to see your high school friends in a non high school setting. See and be seen.

Where my “social media is the food court” thing breaks down is that with social media, movie stars, pro athletes, rock gods, and everyone else are there, too.

An off-hand Tweet could get you on the nightly news. It could get you fired. It could get you laid.

Getting laid was a possibility with the food court analogy, but still.

As the big conversation focus on “where do we go next,” I just see how it’s like growing up, and getting away from hanging out at the mall.

Some people went to clubs, some people went to bars or diners, some people started broom hockey leagues (it me).

We have some Discords, which feel like bars or coffee shops.

And some people are heading to Mastodon, or doubling down on Instagram (owned by another person of questionable character), or god forbid LinkedIn.

This all just feels like moving our hang out sessions from Perkins to Chilis or IHOP, where we keep putting money into the pockets of giant corporations, and where we sign up for their set of rules and regulations.

I saw a group posting about “well, if Twitter goes down tomorrow, you’ll find us somewhere.”

As if buying a domain name for $15 and setting up a SquareSpace site for $20 is some impossible, herculean task.

We all figured out how buy tickets from Ticketmaster and then installed their shitty app and showed them at the venue to get entry, didn’t we? We figured that out.

We figured out how the fuck to make Instagram Stories, and assorted video assets on TikTok and Snapchat.

Some of us printed out directions from MapQuest back in the day to get to shows.

We’re smarter than we think.

And if you don’t know how to do it, you can just ASK THE INTERNET.

Google is right there, people.

My headlight burned out. I was able to find three videos on YouTube, for my exact model car, and learned how to change the bulb in 10 minutes.

And if you have a website, everyone can find you.

Fucking EVERYONE.

Not everyone is on Instagram, or Twitter, of Facebook, or Mastodon, or whatever other tech-bro, VC backed bullshit app comes out that exists to harvest your data and sell it to ad brokers.

Will we have all the addictive qualities Twitter, with the pull down “arm” of the slot machine, always able to reload with some bullshit update from a friend of a friend talking about their favorite vegetables?

Most likely not.

And will we randomly be able to find someone who got fired from Starbucks for unionizing their store? Not easily, no, not if we’re all hiding in this digital silos, walled off from the entire fucking internet in some bullshit app.

I’m bummed for Len, I am! But if Twitter burns to the ground tomorrow, how the heck will we hear about this horrid behavior from Starbucks? (here is Len’s GoFundme link, BTW)

Well, I guess we can start with this website: Starbucks Workers United, which looks like it’s run by The Rochester Regional Joint Board.

It’s maybe not updated at the same rate as someone like Len is Tweeting, but it’s there. And there’s room for other people (like me, or YOU) who are interested in this are to start covering it, which is vital since so many newsrooms across the country are gutted.

Someone could start a newsletter on Substack and get 100 subscribers in a week, I’m sure (I searched and can’t find one). Or a YouTube channel.

Build a site, set up an email address for it, and ask people like Len to send you updates here and there. Get the word out that you’re pissed, and want to help.

The same could be done for the tragedy at Club Q, and all the senseless shootings. Or the overturning of Roe v. Wade. Or the local art scene in your city.

Will you be the biggest coolest viral website in the world? No. But it might help a few hundred people unionizing their coffee shop in a small town.

We’ve been spending HOURS every day scrolling through social media, uploading our photos and thoughts and ideas. Imagine if we spent hours learning WordPress, writing newsletters, and editing videos?

Imagine if we started building small teams around big ideas?

Yes, social media was great for a time (by design). Friendships were born, and we learned a lot, and it was VITAL work – social justice, Black Lives Matter, the me too movement, but these CEOs are not going to roll back the clock.

It will never get any easier to get the word out on social media platforms.

All the bands promoting their next show, to Starbucks unions, to the fight for reproductive rights – it was all built on rented property.

We all fell for the promise of eyeballs and audience, like foot-traffic at the local mall food court.

But Zuckerberg and Musk own the eyeballs and the audience. They own the mall, they set the hours, and they keep raising the rent.

From Heavy Metal Email

It’s time to get back to updating websites, and sending out newsletters. The web is free and open. We’re smart, but we put all the power and energy into building our storefront at the mall, and they just changed the hours.

Is “getting the word out” on social media easy? Technically, like uploading a photo and adding some text? Oh yes. Beyond that, we’re fucked.

On top of all this – no one is owed an audience.

Your band has riffs? Man, I got 50 years of riffs. What makes you so special?

You got inspirational words about doing great work? Fantastic, 80,000 similar posts were just uploaded on all the major social media platforms – today. It starts over tomorrow.

But Starbucks unionization?
State wide reproductive rights?
Local and regional show listings?
Development, homelessness, gentrification?
Lack of diversity in the workplace? In politics?
Selling records or VHS tapes from your cool store?

Let’s stop figuring out where we go next, and start building our own thing.

NOT KEEPING UP

One site I hit everyday is Daring Fireball. I switched to Apple computers back in 2003 and haven’t looked back.

John Gruber started the site in 2002, and it’s pretty much been the same every since, from what I can remember.

Grey, rarely any images, and no comment.

I don’t subscribe to his newsletter (I don’t think he has one), followed on a social media network, or added his podcast feed to a podcast player.

But when I want someone’s opinion on Apple stuff, internet news, tech happenings, or other big events, I just start typing “dar” into my browsers address bar, autocomplete fills in the rest, and I hit enter.

Rather than go to one site (Twitter) that funnels 1000 people onto a soapbox I just go to one person for this.

BURNING DOWN THE HOUSE

The decline of Twitter has really intrigued me, and it’s sort of bittersweet. I mean, I love seeing a rich jerk completely shit the bed, but dammit, I’ve been on Twitter since July 22, 2006. I’m user #2,873. This site has been a major part of my life, and now it’s just burning to the ground.

I mean, I know it hasn’t been great, and it hasn’t been a joy to use since 2016 and all that nonsense (ahem), but wow.

It’s not that I’m going to “miss everyone,” as I see the same people around Instagram or Facebook, and I text with some of them, and have phone calls with others.

That idea (above) is what gets me. You can literally post something in the morning, and be on a late-night TV show later that evening.

Tweet something before you get on a plane, get fired before you land.

You could Tweet at a major musical idol, or movie star, and they might reply.

So there was a lot of tension on there. The ability to call truth to power, gather support, raise funds – big stuff.

It was all in one place, and now it might be gone.

ROAD TO NOWHERE

Since 2006 I’ve been logging onto Twitter. That’s 16 years of checking in on a website or app. I was 30 when I signed up, living in NYC at the time. I made some friends, lost some friends, traveled around, and now I’m 46 years old and there’s lots of wondering of what’s next.

I’m no fan of the new ownership, but I haven’t been a fan of the service for a few years now, or social media in general, given the algorithmic bent towards gossip, horror, extreme viewpoints, and other nonsense.

Gone are the days of logging in and seeing art and joy from my friends, and instead being served ads for shit I don’t need, and people I don’t follow. Great.

I don’t think there’s any new place I’ll go. I’m pretty okay with the small group of people I chat with on the phone, swap texts with, and private DM here and there. I think that can be enough.

Because last thing I need is a 3rd party company run by a bunch of morons coming between me and the personal communications with friends.

Messages (via the iPhone, Mac), phone calls (iPhone), and some Instagram messaging, which I need to break away from.

I think that’s good enough.

NOT KNOWING

Remember running into an old friend and catching up? Learning what’s new in their life? Maybe hearing bad news, horrible news, or the best news in the world?

Then social media came alone and I know what some people have for dinner every night. Job promotions or layoffs announced far and wide. New kids, bad luck, and everything in between.

I think about my younger days, when we ran with smaller crews. Yes, we were on IRC and made friends and met up at shows in cities an hour (or more) away. Now we’re taking in a steady flow of everything from everyone, not just our friends, but also a toxic mix of the worst shitbags we wouldn’t hang around for one minute, yet we let them seep into our life on a minute by minute basis.

It used to be Trump, then Kayne… at this moment in time it’s Kyrie Irving.

Like, why do I know all this shit? How are there 10 articles per hour coming out about each detail, old interview, and random quote?

I’m not saying ignorance is bliss. I’m not saying I want to live under a rock.

I’m just saying that maybe we don’t all need to go to another social media network to keep up with what everyone is doing all the time.

Like the lights came up after a show, and we all went home.

Call, text, send an email. I don’t know.

I’m just pretty sure I’m not jumping to a new social media network.

SOCIAL MEDIA HAS MELTED MY BRAIN

This bit from Ryan Broderick’s ‘Garbage Day‘ newsletter melted my brain.

“According to Know Your Meme, about 60% of the memes we’ve seen in 2022 were created by Twitter or TikTok. And the three biggest apps behind those two —YouTube, Reddit, and Instagram — all trail far behind, contributing around 10% each. And if these current trends continue, it’s likely that by next year TikTok will outpace Twitter. In fact, we’ve entered a new interesting moment where it’s usually unclear whether people on Twitter are talking about something because it’s on TikTok or if people on TikTok are talking about something because it’s on Twitter. Soon it won’t be. Very shortly, every every platform on the internet will be completely downstream of TikTok.”

Ryan Broderick

Like, what?

Sometimes I see some Twitter drama, and follow it for a day. Then, when I tell someone who’s not on Twitter about the drama, they look at me like I have three heads.

This is that. That is this.

I want off, I want out. I am 46 now and while I’m not going back to a 56K modem or purchasing a flip phone, this idea that we all need to be plugged into the social media slot machine, constantly pulling the lever to ingest more more more into our eyeballs is just about over for me.

Half the shit anyways is in response to things on the internet anyways – news reports, new videos, and – of course – the trendy new happing on TikTok.

So whatever.

I’ve been writing here at sethw.xyz since about 2018. On and off, stop and start, sometimes not a lot of writing, and sometimes a bit more. But this place is mine, and mine alone.

Anyone from the world wide web can discover this site, read what I’ve been writing about going back to 2018, and go on about their merry way.

Try reading someone’s Tweets going back to 2018. Good luck.

For the last two months I’ve been getting my ass out of bed and to the gym instead of scrolling social media. I deleted Twitter from my phone (again). And two months later I feel better.

Social media is a habit that’s meant to be broken.

HOME IS WHERE I’LL BE

I’m working out of a nearby co-working spot again, which is close enough for me to walk home for lunch. This tiny side street always amazes me, with the shade, the trees, the church; it’s a great space, though this photo doesn’t really capture that.

Nights are quiet in a college town when school is out, so I’ve taken to doing some night riding with my fixed gear. Very slow and deliberate, listening for crickets and speeding trucks.

I keep thinking to upload photos like this to Instagram. They’d get a few likes and comments, remind people I’m alive. But I am burnt to a crisp on social media.

I liken it to the food court at the mall. As teens, that was the place to be. It’d be weird if all our parents were there, too. That’s social media. Oh, and the mall cops won’t let you see some of your friends, too. That’s the algorithms.

My website is the tiny store front on a side street with no foot traffic. If you want to see what I’ve got in my shop, you’ll have to open a web browser, as I’m nearly done placing ads at the food court for you to come check out my stuff.

Does this mean less traffic? Maybe people will forget about me? Sure.

But I email friends, and text with pals, and get on the phone and Facetime, too. I’m not lacking, and for that I’m grateful.

Investing my time and energy at the food court is over.

FIND THE GOOD STUFF

I removed Twitter and Instagram from my phone, as both were sucking up way too much time. Way too easy to just lose 10 or 20 minutes at a time and come away with nothing of any value.

Of course my brain somehow found Google News, or Apple News, which is just throwing more blunt force trauma into my eyeballs on the regular. No thanks.

Then I remembered, wow, there were design sites I used to frequent which always linked to the coolest stuff.

So in hit up Swiss Miss and found earth.fm, which is amazing nature sounds from all over the world.

Then I found this amazing video, too. A soothing, gorgeous video. Absolultey inspring.

So scrolling through Swiss Miss didn’t flood me with all these things. They were spaced out over several days, not just video after video, pummeling my senses and stealing my attention.

Worth checking out: https://www.swiss-miss.com/

STOPPED SHOUTING

One of the two “blogs” I regulary check out has gone on hiatus, or sabbatical as Jason Kottke puts it (the other is Daring Fireball, but he’s still going).

It’s weird – I had been writing online since 2001 with a music blog, and responsible for running a music site up until 2011. Then I did daily metal trivia on social media from 2011 through 2018, with nightly fucking email newsletters with the answers.

Not to mention regular Tweeting since 2006, with the occasional podcast (Workbench, Metal Minute, On The Rag Again, Later, etc.), and newsletter (The Soft Run, etc.). A Daily Loop. Just always doing… something.

I’ll tell you what gets me going, though: talking to other people about putting stuff out there. Making their websites go, or their newsletters, or starting a podcast. Not like I’m the guy to talk to about how to make it “go viral,” but I’ve done enough of this stuff to know how to build a foundation, and build from there.

That’s such a different medium, though, for me. For years I’ve followed the wisdom that I need to always talk about it, put it out there, share my knowledge with everyone. And weirdly enough once I stopped shouting about it from the roof tops (I’ve slowed down Twittering, stopped sending out my HEAVY METAL EMAIL newsletter), that’s when a few calls have been set up to actually talk about the stuff I do.

LOVING THE OLD MAN AND THE THREE

I’ve been watching NBA basketball since the early 90s, during prime Knicks, Bulls, Pacers. Jordan, Reggie Miller, Patrick Ewing, Bird, fuck…. and through all the years, like, damn, I still watching the game.

During most work days I have ESPN going in the back ground. Just background noise, but it’s a nice way to put in the work hours and hear some good stories.

Gotta say, thouhg – the Old Man and the Three podcast by JJ Redick is so good. The latest with Willie Green is great – the story about how he got into coaching.

Some of my other faves:

Seriously – like stories of eating shit, doing the worst gigs, playing overseas, bus rides… not that allll hard work leads to riches, but man, if you don’t put in the work, that’s usually a good indicator that you ain’t gotta win it all, too.

Love these.